just don't have a filter in their brains to regulate what potentially hurtful things they say to other people. Whatever comes into their minds just comes right out of their mouths. Actually, I know several people like that. But tonight I was talking to Tim's aunt in Pennsylvania who, for some inexplicable reason, said to me, "Hey, did you hear that Tim's getting married?" I replied, "Tim who?" She hesitated a minute. "You know, your Tim." Notice her brain made her hesitate only after she had let the cat out the bag, so to speak. Needless to say, I was taken aback because I am not sure how he can marry someone else when he is still legally married to me, but I am in uncharted waters here. I've only been married once, so this whole divorce thing is new to me. I haven't seen nor have I signed any papers. When I had collected myself, I asked who he was marrying. "Oh, someone in Erie," she told me. I asked where she had gotten her information. She said that her cousin had told her - the same cousin (and her husband) that Tim stayed with when he first went to work in Erie almost two years ago. When she realized that I was shocked, she apologized and said that she thought I knew. I mean, who would bother to tell me? It's true - the wife is always the last to know. I also thought I was all cried out and that nothing that happened would hurt me anymore, but I was wrong. It isn't that I held out any hope of Tim wanting to come back, or that I even want him to, it's just that I thought he might have the decency to tell me to my face that he really does want a divorce and that he has found someone else. Men just don't get it - we may not want to hear the truth if a pair of jeans really does make our butts look fat - but we actually do want to hear the truth about what's really going on in a relationship.
4 years ago